Nothing or nobody can replace your own mom being at home for you all the time. Be there for your kids whenever they need you. Know what your kids are doing at all times when they are little. Your kids are more important than your housework or anything else. If you would rather leave them to caretakers, you shouldn't have had them in the first place. Protect them and teach them to be careful always ~ safety is the most important thing. Make sure they know how to think clearly for themselves, because trusting in or garnering approval from the crowd, any crowd, usually means trouble. Mom had six kids because that was before the pill was invented ~ but not one of us ever got arrested or in any great deal of mischief.